Hard Isn’t Always Physical
When I sat down to write my book, The Overcomer’s Journey, I only had a rough idea of what I wanted to say. I figured it would be about discipline, grit, resilience and targeted to people dealing with kidney issues. But as I dove deeper into the book, I found that what I was saying is universal. And over time, my social media naturally followed that path: physical challenges, hard work, pushing limits.
But what did not make the highlight reel… The hardest things I’ve done weren’t physical.
The Other Kind of Hard
Before writing my book, the last thing I’d written was a term paper or a Pearl Jam-inspired song lyric in high school. So, putting together nearly 200 pages of personal stories, vulnerability, and inspiration? That was hard as hell.
Getting it published? Harder.
Promoting it? Even harder.
Oh by the way, I work full-time and have a family.
What about building a social media presence? Or writing a blog every week? Or sending out a newsletter to the five people brave enough to sign up? Or making content for 69 followers who might scroll past it in 1.4 seconds?
That’s hard too. And while I’m grateful for every single follower, there are days when I seriously wonder what the hell I’m doing.
Comparison Is Easy. Creating Is Hard.
I scroll and see someone in a cape talking about their spoon’s ability to talk or crazy conspiracies with a hundred thousand followers… and here I am pouring heart, soul, and strategy into every post, hoping it lands with someone. Just one person.
This isn’t a complaint. It’s a reminder that non-physical challenges — the mental, emotional, internal ones — are just as brutal.
And they require the same mindset:
Endure.
Focus.
Keep going even when it feels invisible.
When the World Feels Heavy
And then there are weeks like this one. A prominent public figure is assassinated. Another school shooting. A woman needlessly loses her life on a subway car. The country, more divided than ever.
All of it… hard. All of it… heartbreaking. And then someone I care about tells me their loved one has cancer.
Every. Single. Bit. Hard.
I'm not here to unpack politics or debate sides.
But I am here to offer perspective; something I learned the hard way after my transplant. Life is short. Unpredictable.
And way too precious to spend sitting in comparison, self-doubt, or stagnation.
What’s the Point?
Here’s what I’ve realized: hard isn’t exclusive to the physical.
Writing a book was hard.
Showing up for a community that’s still finding me? Hard.
Processing a world that feels like it’s breaking? Also hard.
But you know what’s even harder?
Quitting on yourself.
Every week, I remind myself why I started:
Not for the likes.
Not for the metrics.
But for the one person who feels unseen, unheard, or undone. The one person who might read this and remember that they’re not alone.
Maybe that person is you right now.
Maybe you’re in a season where the weights you carry aren’t on your back or shoulders; they’re on your mind and heart. And no one else sees them.
But you’re still standing. Still showing up. That’s not weakness. That’s strength.
Final Message: You’re Doing Better Than You Think
So, if you’re pushing through something no one else can see. If you’re carrying mental loads, quiet fears, personal battles… Know this:
You’re not invisible. You’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re becoming.
Take a breath. Take inventory.
What non-physical “hard” are you carrying right now?
Write it down. Don’t minimize it. Name it. Honor it. Then take one step forward… however small.
If this blog resonated with you; share it with someone else who might need a reminder that not all battles are visible but they’re still worth fighting.
You're not alone in this.
Let’s keep showing up… together.
